In Victorian times, many adult women did not have orgasms. In actuality, most had no idea what an orgasm was. Many women were raised with rudimentary knowledge of sex, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. In fact a twin study ending in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.
Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since today's women desire orgasms. Lets first define the physiology of a female orgasm. Woman experiencing an orgasm is much like that in men-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a throbbing, twitchy sensation that spreads out through the body. Rythmicpulsations take place within the pelvic muscles including the vagina. Another difference here is that women do not experience a refractory period, and may have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm. This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.
With the help of a skilled lover, most women can have multiple orgasms if they so desire.
Unlike men who can ejaculate quite quickly if they are being masturbated---women need the right conditions. For instance:
1) They A sensual surrounding
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Comfortable surroundings
5) A partner that knows how to stimulate the clitoris
You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.
Men need to know that women can have different types of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris can be stimulated by fingers or through oral sex. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and results in contractions within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a little harder to find: it is located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone, and the front of the cervix. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side. Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet. It is a slightly more pliable area about 1/3 of an inch in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman. A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.
Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:
In conclusion, sex is something amazing that should provide both partners with intense pleasure. The next list is a summary that can help your lady companion have orgasms regularly:
1) 2)Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Orally stimulate her breasts with kissing and gentle sucking
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Discuss anything new you may want to try and listen to her, you do not want to push her into something that will spoil the mood
All men, can use this as a guide to helping your women have a more pleasurable experience, and helping her achieve many orgasms.
If you are an unsatisfied woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!
Good Luck!
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