The Outdoors Was Never This Good When You Were a Kid

Even if you are not an outdoorsy kind of person, if you are dating over the course of a summer, you are likely to find yourself and your date communing with good old mother nature at some point. No matter what your definition of 'communing with nature is' (and that can range from tenting on a backpacking trail and using a Johnson-log to relieve yourself all the way to a 2 story cottage overlooking a lake, complete with Jacuzzi spa, hot-tub on the deck, and a boathouse, you will likely find yourself sharing many romantic interludes with your loved one. All that fresh air and all those sunsets are natural sexual invigorators – getting her in the intimate frame of mind, and reminding him about the natural side of being alive. Plus, there are those full moon nights with lots of bright stars – hopefully while you end up skinny-dipping together. Likely all of these activities will result in 'sex in the wild'. There is however an element of health risk involved, so you should not just do the 'down and dirty' without being prepared. Big city living means that you do not have some of the natural resistance to bacteria that your cave dwelling ancestors did, so you must be more prepared than they were able to be.

Problem: Sex in the Dirt (and Not the Down and Dirty Type Dirt

Outdoor activities expose you to more grime, and with that, more bacteria. Normal outdoor activities like starting a fire, cooking over a campfire, cutting wood, and just the smoke and bug sprays leaves you a much less desirable person to be around from an intimacy point of view. No matter how amorous you might feel, the Hollywood movie version of an idyllic and loving camping trip or nature walk are unlikely to happen unless you take care of basic sanitation necessities. So there are a few recommendations. Wash up thoroughly before bedtime. When roughing it in the bush, take a container of 'wet wipes' with you to help keep yourself sanitary in your nether regions.

Solution: Hit the Showers

There are ways around this pitfall, of course. Most parks have access to shower facilities, but sometimes these are overloaded, or sometimes you may not be close enough to avail ourselves of them. Going during off peak hours – like after midnight – is a way avoid facility overload. If you are around showers, then you can make use of them. Perhaps using them after midnight or very early in the morning would bypass shower queues. Of course if you on a backpack trail, you will need to either bath in a stream, or else mutually sponge bath each other.

Problem:  Being Alone

It doesn’t take an acoustics engineer to realize that the millimeter of nylon that comprises your tent wall won’t do much to keep your sex noises private. And since sound travels so well over water, even people on the other side of the lake will be able to hear what you sound like when you’re trying the Inverted Reverse Pile-driver. Even worse, if you’ve gone camping with friends and their kids, there are going to be a lot of questions in the morning about the strange noises they’ve heard.

 Solution: The Long, Long, Long, Nature Hike

This is a great strategy, but make sure you are safe while you do it. First, don’t go where there are bears. They can kill the mood and you’re partner. Second, don’t go at night – finding your way back in the dark when you’re brain has been scrambled by some hot sex is too difficult. Third Bring something to lay on so you do not get sand in your Schlitz. You should also let your camping buddies know where you are going in case you do not come back.  That way, if you deplete all your bodily fluids during the coitus and can’t make it back, they can send the rangers out to look for you. Just pull up your shorts before they rescue you, for appearances sake.

Good Camping!

Online Dating

Why Online Dating Sites Are So Popular

If there's one thing the Internet has introduced us to that we love, it's online dating. If you stop to ponder it a bit, you will understand that it makes the whole process of meeting someone to date just way too easy. We can browse pictures before we even talk to them, centre on the cuties and ignore the rest. No awkward conversation at bars, no “trying to get out of it”, nothing. No more worries about that creepy guy in the corner approaching you just before last call. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that baffles me about online dating, unlike dating, is how brash and open the profiles are. You will find that many people who join an online dating site will give you a full discourse on their personal lives and desires. Maybe it's just me. Maybe those are the sorts of things you want to know about before hand so you can dodge the proverbial bullet, so to speak. It's hard to say. I'm on the fence about these sorts of things, myself. On one hand, I like to know what I'm getting in to, on the other, sometimes there's such thing as too much information.

Something else to consider is your comfort level in meeting someone that you have interacted with online for the first time. This is not unlike a situation where you have interacted with someone professionally by email or over the phone. When it comes to your first face-to-face meeting though, there is always some trepidation, especially if something important is riding on it. When meeting someone from a dating site in person for the first time, the stakes are high. After all, your whole personal future may be riding on it. Anxiety is bound to be high.  Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. The same thing your parents would have insisted still works, folks. I am stressing here to meet in a public place the whole time, like a restaurant, a movie theatre, and a crowded street, whatever. If it's appropriate, I'll even bring a friend along and encourage them to do the same. Avoid totally free dating sites. You will find more predators in totally free dating sites because they can contact you with a totally assumed alias. Paid sites are more difficult for predators to use bogus information on, so they usually avoid them

Other than that, I can only say good things about meeting people online. If you take the right precautions, you can have a great time. You never know what is going to happen when you meet someone for the first time, and that is always a bit of a kick for me. Do they slouch when they walk around? Do they have a nervous tic or annoying habit? I am also nervous too. After all, this could be the love of my life that I am meeting, so I tend to get into a bit of a nervous sweat. Other than that, like I said, I have nothing but good things to say about it.

I find that meeting people online is a lot easier, and from my perspective, better. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I really like the conversations when you first start talking to someone online. There is just so much to learn about them and there is so much for them to learn about you. This is also a good time to look for inconsistencies in what they say, because that is a sure sign of someone to be wary of.

Sometimes meeting an interesting person face to face for the first time ends up in disappointment. No spark! Often though, these people end up being really good friends because there is just so many other things that you have in common. In a real way though, whatever sort of person you're interested in meeting, friend, date, husband/wife, whatever, online is a great way to go. With all the free online dating sites and common interest forums, you can find whoever you're looking for.

The Internet has given us online dating and online chatting for a reason. Maybe in some ways it seems too new and frightening in it's own degree but so many people are involved in it now. If it's a trend, it's not one that will be fading out fast and you'll meet tons of people that will swear by it as the perfect way to meet a casual date, a soul mate, a best friend etc. If you stay cautious about it, it's good to give it a shot at least once in your life. As for my vote, you've got it.

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Online Dating

The Dangers of Online Dating

The Killer May Have Been the Date from Hell!

Sonia Varaschin was killed because she was lonely.

This worst case scenario emphasizes the inherent risks of meeting people online. Although the police were able to successfully research the victim's computer, it was too late to help Sonia.

When someone chooses a site like plentyoffish, they are actually seriously increasing their risk of exposure to predators. Let me clarify that comment.
I am not singling our plentyoffish.com, because other free online dating sites like OKcupid.com fall in the same camp.  I will not try to list them all. Many sites walk the fine edge of maximum danger without actually realizing it.

The problem here is that any site that allows two people to communicate in any way for free is dangerous. Here is why.

There are lots of weirdos out there. Some are just lacking social skills, but others are sociopaths. There is a very real chance that someone who appears to be nice in a chat room is not so wonderful in real life, and the most dangerous ones are very clever at hiding their anti-social behavior. Of course the acme of risk resides with people who not only stalk you, but who seek to do you harm. They may think nothing of taking your life.

You may wonder why I am singling out free online dating sites, when in fact I am not.
This range of sites also includes facebook.com. You may think that it is safe to accept a friend request from the friend of a friend – after all you trust your friends. But in fact, your friend may very well be the type of person who always accepts friend requests without actually knowing the person. You are not safe unless you know which of your friends would never accept friend requests from unknown people.

Social networking sites that require some form of payment before allowing communication are inherently safer. The reason is that the payment process is a very easy trace for police to follow, and for that very reason, sociopaths and known sexual predators stay clear of these sites.  On the other hand, it only takes them a few minutes to set up a string of bogus email account on yahoo ,then set up a phoney email account on gmail ,then delete the yahoo account.  At that point you can now go into the gmail account and point the base email account to some fictitious email account on aol, and you have pretty much left a tough trail for police to track.  Smart stalkers use a trail for free emails spanning several countries and corporate entities, thus becoming more invisible.  Once the stalker has a largely untraceable email account on a free service like gmail, then they are free to use it to join all the free communication sites out there.  If they couple this with a disposable cell phone, you are now fully communicating with someone who looks legit, but is untraceable by anyone. They are free to do what they please with you..

So what can you do about it?
Well the first, and most important step is to stay off of free social network dating sites. They are very risky.
The rest is just a lot of common sense:
1) Make sure you communicate online for a fair length of time before meeting in person. Make sure you do not let them know anything about who you are or where you live, or any outside contact information in the initial stages.
2) At the point where you want to hear their voice, use an untraceable cell phone or myprivateline.com.
3) When communicating, keep your bullshit filters set to maximum alert.  Look for inconsistencies. Look for inconsistencies in what they tell you by asking similar questions and making sure that the answers line up consistently. Lack of consistency in answers is a danger signal – he might be just a BS artist, but it might be something worse. If a stalker is working on you, they are probably pursuing more than one person at the same time and will often mix up the lies.
4) Seek recent photos, and think of some way that you can verify that the photo is recent.
5) Make sure that they understand that you are just being careful. Genuine people will likely applaud your apparent paranoia. You must also be willing to do the same. Use a library and a recent newspaper from another town.
6) Your first date should be in a public place and you should meet him there, and do not go home with your date.
7) Use your camera phone and MMS it to a few friends. Then tell them what you have done that. If they have a problem with you doing this, then get out yesterday!

Use your head before you let yourself lose your heart.

Now if I have not totally freaked you out about online dating sites, here is a good resource page, check out the following link:

Online Dating Sites

Dating In College

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not strange or anything like that, but please stop telling me to enjoy being single because “one day” I might find myself with a husband, youngsters and an expensive apartment, being single is beginning to wear on me. I am tired of being single, single is my closest friend,  I have had more relationship problem's than relationships, I want to have a relationship with someone other than my chia pet, college dating can by trying at best. Why does it seem like everyone else is successful in relationships but me, I'm so sick and tired of loving and losing, maybe I should just except the fact that in the game of love, I'm a loser!

I asked a close companion once (no not my gold fish), but rather a college friend how she does it, I told her that when I go to get togethers, other women seem to have no problem connecting with guys, but every time I go after one that I'm attracted to, someone else comes along and grabs him, what should I do. Her answer was to ask me what I would do if someone tried to line jump in front of me. I replied I would grab them and tell then to get in line and wait their turn like everyone else. She said good, the next time some babe tries to rob you of your man play thing just kick her ass, slide up to the hot dude of your dreams and make him slobber all over you. Maybe I should have asked my gold fish.

College guys are a complete mystery to me, I'm a smart attractive college girl but they act like I am the toe jamb in their shoes. The ones I do go out with are only interested in sex, for a lot college guys you have to put our or get the hell out, so I'd rather get out.

But its not just college girls who have problems, there are college dudes who do not seem to play well with college babes. It seems if you won't get in the sack with them they think you are gay, its too bad because even though sex is an amazing thing, there is just so much more to life and relationships than just boinking each other. The guys tell me that many of the coeds want them have sex with them off the get go and if they shows any signs of reluctance she tells her friends that they are narcissists and into self sexual satisfaction. Most of these poor unfortunates are great guys that are just the type of guy that you would want to have a life with and don't just think of them as an easy piece, why can't these women see that these men will not accept this sort of handling.

However there might be a silver lining to this cloud, several of the guys and girls have decided to go online to some of the college dating sites they've heard about and sign up.. There have been some real success stories floating around about how guys and girls met their soul mates on these sites. People on these sites could care less what color your hair is and they're not just interested in a good time in bed, they're fantastic people, and college students like us. They have a dream of making something of themselves. They hope to meet the person of their dreams and settle down to a long future together. One of my friends actually met his fiance on a college dating site, I had no idea at the time what he was up to or how they found each other.

My friends have been so successful that I have decided to try it for myself.  My friends told me about this site they found that lists and ranks a bunch of online dating sites, and they have an entire page on just college dating sites. This is where they started and they recommend it to everyone. Who knows maybe I'll finally find someone who is caring and decent. If you are in college and or looking to find someone to help make your college experience a little better why don't you follow this link:

College Dating

Female Orgasms 101

In Victorian times, many adult women did not have orgasms. In actuality, most had no idea what an orgasm was.  Many women were raised with rudimentary knowledge of sex, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. In fact a twin study ending in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since today's women desire orgasms. Lets first define the physiology of a female orgasm.  Woman experiencing an orgasm is much like that in men-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a throbbing, twitchy sensation that spreads out through the body.  Rythmicpulsations take place within the pelvic muscles including the vagina. Another difference here is that women do not experience a refractory period, and may have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the help of a skilled lover, most women can have multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Unlike men who can ejaculate quite quickly if they are being masturbated---women need the right conditions. For instance:

1) They A sensual surrounding
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Comfortable surroundings
5) A partner that knows how to stimulate the clitoris

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men need to know that women can have different types of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm.  The clitoris can be stimulated by fingers or through oral sex. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and results in contractions within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a little harder to find: it is located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone, and the front of the cervix. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It is a slightly more pliable area about 1/3 of an inch in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman.  A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In conclusion, sex is something amazing that should provide both partners with intense pleasure. The next list is a summary that can help your lady companion have orgasms regularly:

1) 2)Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Orally stimulate her breasts with kissing and gentle sucking
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Discuss anything new you may want to try and listen to her, you do not want to push her into something that will spoil the mood

All men, can use this as a guide to helping your women have a more pleasurable experience, and helping her achieve many orgasms.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!

Good Luck!

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Will I Find The One

Hi my name is Skippy, and no I'm not a kangaroo! I was just a horny guy looking for a little nooky. I was always hoping someone would take a chance on me. Hmm – sounds like an old song. Lol. Lol.  Just kidding. So there I was, 27 and still haven’t had any. Thats right I said virgin, and I felt like I was the only one left in the world. It seems virgins are a dying breed these days. I told people I was saving myself for that special one. Its funny how losers always say they're saving themselves. For what? The end of the world? I once told a coworker that I was a virgin by choice. He laughed and said “That's like an ugly person saying beauty is only skin deep”. I kept saying that if something doesn’t change soon I might consider a sex change. Maybe then I could give it away. God I was horny (did I say that out loud)? Sometimes I felt so alienated from society. Everyone seems to be in a big hurry to go nowhere. No one ever noticed me. So almost every night, it was just me, my friend Lurch (god what horrible name) and my faithful dog Bobo.

Late one night my friend and I walked home from the neighborhood hotel. As we walked we were met by a couple of bullies shouting profanities at us. My friend said you guys better back off because were the members of a club, (ya the losers club). One of them responded, “Probably the hair club for men. Get em”. As we fled into the night dodging beer caps and hard boiled eggs we decided to take a stand, but luck for once was on our side. It seems they had gone in the other direction. Lurch said it was lucky for them they went the other way or I don't know what I would have done (probably ran). Lurch tried to start a club for virgin males but no one wanted to join, guess his campaign slogan “Proud To Be A Virgin”, sent them all running in the opposite direction. 

As we sat on my front porch one night watching the women walk by, seems that's all we ever did was watch, wondering how to make our lives more exciting, it came to me. I explained to my friend that I know someone who is involved in one of those online sites and he meets all kinds of great woman maybe we should give it a try.

Well we couldn't be happier,things couldn't be better for the both of us. We have met some wonderful caring women and, well I never kiss and tell, but I met the one, and I owe it all to a buddy who gave me this great link to check out. So if your tired of being alone and want to share your life’s experiences with someone then the link below can help you.

Online Dating Sites

Killer Stalks on Plentyoffish

Death Follows For a First Time Meet In Person Date

Sonia Varaschin was killed because she was lonely.

This situation is a devastating example of the risks underscoring any situation where you meet someone on the internet. In this case, the victim's computer was researched for leads, but the real tragedy is the victim's choice of sites.

When Sonya chose a site like plentyoffish.com she actually maximized her risks, and I must qualify this.
I am not singling our plentyoffish.com, because other free online dating sites like OKcupid.com fall in the same camp.  I will not try to list them all. Many sites walk the fine edge of maximum danger without actually realizing it.

At issue here is the free dating model in general. Here is why.

There are many social misfits out there. Some are just lacking social skills, but others are sociopaths. It is very possible that the apparently nice guy that you are chatting to on the Internet is actually possessive and abusive in real life. Of course the acme of risk resides with people who not only stalk you, but who seek to do you harm. They may think nothing of taking your life.

So why am I singling out the free communication dating sites? Well actually I am not!
Other social networking sites like facebook also have this problem. You may think that it is safe to accept a friend request from the friend of a friend – after all you trust your friends. But in fact, your friend may very well be the type of person who always accepts friend requests without actually knowing the person. You are not safe unless you know which of your friends would never accept friend requests from unknown people.

If you are communicating on any site that requires payment of some sort to enable the communication, then you are inherently safer from the get-go. Sexual predators stay clear of pay sites because the money is too easy to trace back to them.  It only takes them a few minutes to set up a string of fake email account on yahoo using a real email account as reference, then set up a bogus email account on gmail ,then delete the yahoo account.  Now just tie the gmail account to a fictitious email on AOL and it makes it tough to track you.  The really smart stalkers will use a free email account trail crossing providers based in several different countries so that police have to do tons of paperwork to get access to the records.  With a fist full of untraceable email accounts your typical sexual predator can join free social networking sites to their heart's content.  If they couple this with a disposable cell phone, you are now fully communicating with someone who looks legit, but is untraceable by anyone. They are free to do what they please with you..

So what can you do about it?
Well the first, and most important step is to stay off of free social network dating sites. They expose you to unnecessary danger.
The rest is just a lot of common sense:
1) Make sure you communicate online for a fair length of time before meeting in person. Keep all details about who you really are or where you live private until you know them better.
2) At some point use a disposable phone yourself, or else take advantage of an anonymous phone service, like MyPrivateLine.com, which offers a disposable number that lets you talk to strangers without revealing your phone number.
3) Before you commit your heart, make sure you are doing due diligence on this person. Be careful with what you say, and listen carefully to what is said. Consider recording the call so you can take notes after.  Look for changes in the lines that they string you. Ask for the same information a few different ways over the course of your initial acquaintance and make sure the answers are consistent. Lack of consistency in answers is a danger signal – he might be just a BS artist, but it might be something worse. Stalkers usually have more than one potential victim that they are stringing along, and will often confuse details in what they tell each mark.
4) Seek recent photos, and think of some way that you can verify that the photo is recent.
5) Tell them that you are being careful right off the get-go. Genuine people will likely applaud your apparent paranoia. You should be prepared to do the same for them. Consider using the public library and use a current newspaper from a different town to keep your location secret.
6) Your first date should be in a public place and you should meet him there, and do not go home with your date.
7) Use your camera phone and MMS it to a few friends. Then tell them what you have done that. If they do not like that, then to bad. But now get out right away!

Use your head before you lose your heart so you can keep both.

If you are still interested in paid online dating, check out the following link:

Online Dating Sites

Dating In College

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not weird or anything like that, but please stop telling me to enjoy being single because “one day” I might find myself with a husband, youngsters and a house with a mortgage, being single is beginning to wear on me. I have been single for 22 years, single is my closest companion,  I have had more relationship problem's than relationships, I would love to have a relationship with someone other than my cat, college dating can by trying at best. Why does it seem like everyone around me is winning at the game of love except me, I'm so sick and tired of loving and losing, maybe I should just except the fact that in the game of love, I'm a loser!

I once asked a friend (no not my dog), but rather a college friend how she does it, I explained to her that when I go to meet people at parties, the other girls seem to have no problem approaching the guys, but every time I go after one that I'm attracted to, someone else comes along and grabs him, what should I do. Her answer was to ask me if I would let someone elbow me out of line at the bank. I replied I would elbow them and shove them back in line to wait their turn. She said wonderful, the next time some babe tries to take your man just kick her ass, grab the guy and make him yours. Maybe I should have asked my dog.

College guys are a complete mystery to me, I'm a smart attractive coed but they act like I have two heads. The ones I do go out with are only interested in sex, for many college guys you have to shell out or get out, so I'd rather get out.

But its not just females that have problems, there are college guys who have problems with coeds. It seems if you won't get in the sack with them they think you are a wuss, its too bad because most people have more to offer than just sex. The guys tell me that a lot of the college girls expect them have sex with them off the get go and if they shows any signs of reluctance she trashes them to her friends. These are nice guys that respect women and don't just think of them as an easy piece, why can't these girls see that these men will not accept this sort of treatment.

However there might be a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, several of the guys and girls have decided to join several of the more successful online college dating sites. There have been some real success stories floating around about how guys and girls met their soul mates on these sites. They said the people on these sites don't care how much money you have and they are interesting to talk to and any sex is just part of the total package, they're decent people, and college students like us. They have a dream of making something of themselves. They plan to meet and settle down with the person of their dreams. My best friend met his future wife on an online college dating site, I was surprised because it happened so quickly, that they were an item before I knew he was going to join an online dating site.

My friends have been so successful that I have decided to try it for myself.  My friends have given me a 'college dating sites' link to try. This is where they started and they recommend it to everyone. Who knows maybe I'll finally find someone who is caring and decent. If you are in college and or looking to find someone to help make your college experience a little better why don't you follow this link:

Dating College Women