Grinning Your Way Through Life

When you go out with a guy for the first time, it is always a challenge. You do not know how to dress is the first dilemma. Coming off as sexy, and serene at the same time is always a tough line to walk.Can you please tell me why first dates are always such a challenge? I guess it must be because you may not be sure of the venue of the date, and even if you are, that may just be the starting point. Dressing appropriately is a tough call in such a case in the best of times, but first dates just add to the pressure. Of course the biggest concern is not clothes at all. You are most likely preoccupied with the fact that you might not hit it off with the guy and the evening could play out forever. In many cases you have decided after about fifteen minutes that it is not going to work out, but you are trying to make the best of a bad situation. I mean, just telling him that you think he is an idiot may not be in your emotional makeup to pull off. My personality just does not allow me to confront someone at all. I just cannot sit there and look someone in the eye and say that it is not working out. My usual tactic for dealing with an inappropriate suitor is to hope he does not call me back. If he does, I ignore the calls. Does that make me a coward? Likely it does.

Do you want to know a good way to keep yourself happy on a dud date? Keep reading!

Even if you are out with a steady boyfriend, he might run into work associates and spend the evening talking shop, thus leaving you pretty much out of the conversation. More likely to happen, and even worse in my mind, is him running into his pals and talking about sports all night. Aside from a game of pool, which I indulge in not so much because I am good, but because I can show off my amazing butt, I have little interest in sports or games of any type. Especially video games. Yuck!!  To listen to the animated way that gamers talk you would think that there is nothing more important in the world, but to me it is like watching flies mating. I am going off topic a bit with that diatribe, but you can get a gist of just how such conversation would turn me off

One unfortunate side effect of being brought up the way that I was is that I must always be polite. It is just part of who I am. I find it impossible to make any sort of scene, ever. And that means I will never walk out on a date, no matter how badly it is going. So I often sit there, watching the clock crawl as my date tries to make conversation,  hoping beyond hope that the evening will end. Have you ever wished to be struck down by a meteor on a date? I have.If I have been bored stiff, or ignored all night, there ain't gonna be no sugar tonight for that dude. Of course that means that I have to get my jollies some other way.

One night, I was being ignored and I got to thinking which device I would be using that night. I had just settled on my rabbit vibrator, when I had a thought.  I was in a sex shop with a girl friend of mind a few days ago and we had giggled over a pair of vibrator panties. At the time we just laughed at how inferior they would be to a regular vibrator. But tonight a possible good use came to mind. The next day found me at the sex store picking up a pair with remote control.

The next time I dated, I wore my new electronic panties. Sure enough, he started talking sports with some pals of his at the local watering hole. After about 5 minutes, I gave my pulsating panties a try. Suddenly, the fact that I was being ignored was unimportant. I no longer cared what was going on around me at all. It was so cool.  I sat on my stool in bliss, playing with the controls. I found out that I could time my release to occur when the more popular of the teams scored. That way, everyone thought I was really into the game.  A couple of times I miss timed it, but fortunately there was a close play on the screen each time, so most people assumed I was reacting to that. By the end of the evening I had it down to a science. Football was never so interesting to me before!

After that, I started to wear them on every date I go on, even now.  For those nights were I am not being bored or ignored, I simply change out my electronic panties for regular ones before heading back home with him. If for no other reason than to stop any strange looks as we take our clothes off.

One day, about three months after purchasing my secret date weapon, I was sitting in on our weekly sales meeting listening to my boss drone on about the same stuff that he drones on about every week. Such meetings have always been a mystery to me. I have no idea what they accomplish other than to add pressure and increase anxiety. It would be much better for them to give us some concrete ideas of how to approach customers on various products. But they likely do not know anything more than we do, so all they are able to come up with is to increase pressure on us. I would hate to have to do crap like that to justify my existence.  I am digressing here. As I half listened, the thought crossed my mind that this was a lot like listening to the useless sports drivel that my boyfriend and his chums spout off about. And then the thought crossed my mind, why not deal with this the same way I deal with a date? At the next scheduled meeting, I gave it a try.  That meeting made me see my work time in an entirely different light. I had every woman's dream. Imagine, being paid to orgasm. I mean, it was like being a hooker without any risk. On top of that, because I was so good with the controls by then, when I timed myself to come at the end of the meeting, the boss just assumed that I was really enthusiastic to his ideas. And the best thing was that the panties were quiet enough that nobody could hear. Before long, I was wearing them every day. This meant that I needed a drawer full of play panties, but they were the best investment I ever made. I mean, after all, they changed my whole outlook on working.  People at work are amazed at how serene I am all the time. No matter how tough the day is I am always upbeat. I guess that was quite a change for me. But under no circumstances will I ever tell any of them the secret of my epiphany.  No matter what the trial, I just smile.

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Chat

Do you know what a chat line is? They are essentially a way for people to communicate, either by phone, or via video chatting online. All services allow one on one chatting, but several allow for group chatting. There are also global chat services that leverage the power of the Internet. Chat services offer everything from phone sex, relationships, and just a friendly voice. Chat lines are becoming increasingly popular and more and more people are using them. The number of choices can be overwhelming, but if you take your time and choose carefully, it should not be a problem.

                                        Telephone Chatting

If you have never used a chat service, you are in for a surprise as to how easy it is. Simply call a phone number (which is usually local and therefore not subject to long distance charges), record your personal ad so other people can see if they want to connect with you even if you are not online. At that point, you simply sit back and start chatting with other people. It is almost like being on an old time party line where you can hear other peoples conversations.

What is so popular about phone chat? Well here are a few reason's:

1)Chat lines are just so low tech. No expensive computer to buy. Simply pick up your phone, dial a number, and start talking. Anyone can do that..
2)You can review other peoples verbal profiles and get a feel for how interesting a person might be before ever wasting your time contacting them. You, of course, will also have to set up your own verbal profile – just make sure that you plan it so that you sound interesting and vivacious.
3)Chat services are mostly local in nature because that is where they are most effective. This makes it easier for you to find someone close to you. This is not always easy to do these days, people just don't have the time on their hands they used to have so phone chat lines are very convenient. This is why so many people prefer them.
4)Phone chat lines give you the opportunity to use their live chat to talk to someone that you have something in common with and someone that may interest you. This is a good way to get to know them so you can decide if you want to take it a step further and actually meet them in person.
5)With phone chat lines you don't have to give out your name you can be completely anonymous keeping yourself safe from weirdos and kooks while enjoying yourself and having fun in the process.
6)Many phone chat services also allow you to anonymously text message people that you are becoming more friendly with. This allows you to keep your communications going all day, even if you are not both on the chat line at the same time.

Phone chat lines will always be around and will always be popular for those looking to meet someone interesting and special, and for those just looking for someone they can call friend and share a few laughs with .



                                  Online Chat

Online chatting has been considered a tremendous success when it comes to starting a long term friendship or relationship. Everyday more people are turning to the Internet to find  other people like themselves also looking for that special somebody, someone who shares  the same passions, interests and goals. Some are very much interested in finding their life partner and chatting is a good way to break the ice and is seen as a good starting point. Over the years many adults have found genuine loving relationships that actually lead to happy marriages, most of these happy endings were started by the simple act of chatting.
There are several advantages to online chat such as:

1)You can be completely anonymous and feel safe knowing that you only give out as much info about yourself as you want.
2)You have the possibility of connecting with just about any person of the opposite sex anywhere in the world.
3)If you're gay or lesbian its nice to know that there are hundreds of chatting sites you can use to connect to other gays and lesbians seeking someone to share your life with.
4)You can connect solely with people who have the same interests and passions as yourself.
5)You can also learn about other country’s and cultures by chatting with people online from other parts of the world. You also have the opportunity to exchange photo's and even recipes from other country’s, think of the possibilities, there have been a lot of long term relationships made by people from other country's who met on an online chat site.
6)Online chat lines have such a wide appeal for not only singles but seniors, married couples, adults, christian singles, lesbians, gays the list goes on. You can use online chat lines to connect to long lost friends as well as family members you may have lost contact with over the years, the possibilities are absolutely endless.
7)With online chat you don't necessarily have to be looking or a relationship with someone, you can use online chat to meet and start long term friendships with people in your own town or from around the world.

Online Chat as well as Phone Chat also have their disadvantages, these are a few things to remember when using either one.

1)People can hide their true identity.
2)People can lie about their marital status.
3)People can be dishonest about their age and sex.
4)People can hide their true character.
5)People can hide their true intentions.
6)People can also hide and lie about their criminal background.
7)People online can be a sexual predator so be careful before meeting

Never the less, with the right knowledge and approach, all the risk associated with online and phone chatting can be totally eliminated. So if you have educated yourself  and think you are ready for Online or Phone chat, then go ahead,  enjoy yourself, have fun and be safe. You will find a link below to a site that has a lot of chatting services mentioned. It is a great place to find superior chat services.

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Dating In College

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not strange or anything like that, but please stop telling me to enjoy being single because “one day” I might find myself with a husband, youngsters and an expensive apartment, being single is beginning to wear on me. I am tired of being single, single is my closest friend,  I have had more relationship problem's than relationships, I want to have a relationship with someone other than my chia pet, college dating can by trying at best. Why does it seem like everyone else is successful in relationships but me, I'm so sick and tired of loving and losing, maybe I should just except the fact that in the game of love, I'm a loser!

I asked a close companion once (no not my gold fish), but rather a college friend how she does it, I told her that when I go to get togethers, other women seem to have no problem connecting with guys, but every time I go after one that I'm attracted to, someone else comes along and grabs him, what should I do. Her answer was to ask me what I would do if someone tried to line jump in front of me. I replied I would grab them and tell then to get in line and wait their turn like everyone else. She said good, the next time some babe tries to rob you of your man play thing just kick her ass, slide up to the hot dude of your dreams and make him slobber all over you. Maybe I should have asked my gold fish.

College guys are a complete mystery to me, I'm a smart attractive college girl but they act like I am the toe jamb in their shoes. The ones I do go out with are only interested in sex, for a lot college guys you have to put our or get the hell out, so I'd rather get out.

But its not just college girls who have problems, there are college dudes who do not seem to play well with college babes. It seems if you won't get in the sack with them they think you are gay, its too bad because even though sex is an amazing thing, there is just so much more to life and relationships than just boinking each other. The guys tell me that many of the coeds want them have sex with them off the get go and if they shows any signs of reluctance she tells her friends that they are narcissists and into self sexual satisfaction. Most of these poor unfortunates are great guys that are just the type of guy that you would want to have a life with and don't just think of them as an easy piece, why can't these women see that these men will not accept this sort of handling.

However there might be a silver lining to this cloud, several of the guys and girls have decided to go online to some of the college dating sites they've heard about and sign up.. There have been some real success stories floating around about how guys and girls met their soul mates on these sites. People on these sites could care less what color your hair is and they're not just interested in a good time in bed, they're fantastic people, and college students like us. They have a dream of making something of themselves. They hope to meet the person of their dreams and settle down to a long future together. One of my friends actually met his fiance on a college dating site, I had no idea at the time what he was up to or how they found each other.

My friends have been so successful that I have decided to try it for myself.  My friends told me about this site they found that lists and ranks a bunch of online dating sites, and they have an entire page on just college dating sites. This is where they started and they recommend it to everyone. Who knows maybe I'll finally find someone who is caring and decent. If you are in college and or looking to find someone to help make your college experience a little better why don't you follow this link:

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Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots. Once they start to live together, they seem to gradually lose the bonds that attracted them in the first place. Why is that?  Is it change, or is it terminal dis-interestry?  I don't think so. So why the drift? The truth is we just get too comfortable, and no longer put forth  the effort  that we did in the beginning. To repair the damage, an active program of preventative maintenance is required.

Think about your relationship, and how you and your lover interacted when the relationship was new—you will likely find that you had a lot more intimacy in the early days of your relationship. This would include more phone calls, texting, touching, kissing and other endearments . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now.  It all used to come so easy with the excitement of having a new partner - do we have to let that excitement die? Some relationships were never meant to last, but of those that are, it is important that we actively pursue success.  Stress is the usual place to put the blame, but that is not always applicable.  All these issues were probably the same ones we've  dealt with in the past that made us closer in the first place.

If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. Both partners get into their comfort zone, and let things go,and before you know it their at that point where they never thought they'd be. Men might get in the habit of checking out other women and not paying attention to the one they are with.  Now, I am not putting any blame here - women can be guilty of this also. The issue is that we start to neglect each other in small ways that end up being very significant in the long run. We make each other feel less attractive, less desireable and less needed. Most times were even afraid to say something for fear of upsetting the other person even though their actions have made us angry. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - to build a lifelong romance takes work, commitment, understanding and tolerance of each others viewpoints. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men have to stop staring at other women – it may be conditioned by advertising, but it is just demeaning to your partner. And women need to think about comments that they may make about other guys.
4)  Dishonesty is the root of all relationship dissension – make a habit of telling the truth, even if it might lead to embarrassing explanations.
5) No matter how busy you are, and other than sleeping at night, make sure you set aside at least an hour a day to be alone together
6) Talk to each other and make sure you bring up issues and work them through before they become an insurmountable obstacle.
7) Always start your day off with a kiss, and a hug, and a good morning- it starts your day off on a positive note, and it feels real good too.
8) Be spontaneous- flirt with each other-  a little kissing on a stairwell before work can be rather sexy, and keep your partner thinking about you throughout the day
9) Make sure that you smile and take life as the fun adventure that it is meant to be. You may think that frowning and being serious all the time is a way to get ahead in life, but in actual fact it works against you in your personal life, your relationships and in your professional business life as well.
10)  Make a point of never going to bed angry- whatever is bothering you talk it out, its not worth losing sleep over, and it starts your next day on a negative note. Make some time to snuggle when you get into bed....create a good night ritual. Some couples just get into their own sides of the bed, and that's it. I don't know about you, but  that is not my idea of a Good Night. Take a few moments to caress, and make going to sleep a wonderful thing knowing that you will be waking up beside your Prince or Princess in the morning.

Relationships are hard work but worth the effort. Keep at it so that your relationship becomes more play than work. When it becomes second nature to you, you have truly achieved the epiphany of satisfaction.
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Dating In College

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not weird or anything like that, but please stop telling me to enjoy being single because “one day” I might find myself with a husband, youngsters and a house with a mortgage, being single is beginning to wear on me. I have been single for 22 years, single is my closest companion,  I have had more relationship problem's than relationships, I would love to have a relationship with someone other than my cat, college dating can by trying at best. Why does it seem like everyone around me is winning at the game of love except me, I'm so sick and tired of loving and losing, maybe I should just except the fact that in the game of love, I'm a loser!

I once asked a friend (no not my dog), but rather a college friend how she does it, I explained to her that when I go to meet people at parties, the other girls seem to have no problem approaching the guys, but every time I go after one that I'm attracted to, someone else comes along and grabs him, what should I do. Her answer was to ask me if I would let someone elbow me out of line at the bank. I replied I would elbow them and shove them back in line to wait their turn. She said wonderful, the next time some babe tries to take your man just kick her ass, grab the guy and make him yours. Maybe I should have asked my dog.

College guys are a complete mystery to me, I'm a smart attractive coed but they act like I have two heads. The ones I do go out with are only interested in sex, for many college guys you have to shell out or get out, so I'd rather get out.

But its not just females that have problems, there are college guys who have problems with coeds. It seems if you won't get in the sack with them they think you are a wuss, its too bad because most people have more to offer than just sex. The guys tell me that a lot of the college girls expect them have sex with them off the get go and if they shows any signs of reluctance she trashes them to her friends. These are nice guys that respect women and don't just think of them as an easy piece, why can't these girls see that these men will not accept this sort of treatment.

However there might be a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, several of the guys and girls have decided to join several of the more successful online college dating sites. There have been some real success stories floating around about how guys and girls met their soul mates on these sites. They said the people on these sites don't care how much money you have and they are interesting to talk to and any sex is just part of the total package, they're decent people, and college students like us. They have a dream of making something of themselves. They plan to meet and settle down with the person of their dreams. My best friend met his future wife on an online college dating site, I was surprised because it happened so quickly, that they were an item before I knew he was going to join an online dating site.

My friends have been so successful that I have decided to try it for myself.  My friends have given me a 'college dating sites' link to try. This is where they started and they recommend it to everyone. Who knows maybe I'll finally find someone who is caring and decent. If you are in college and or looking to find someone to help make your college experience a little better why don't you follow this link:

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