Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots. Once they start to live together, they seem to gradually lose the bonds that attracted them in the first place. Why is that?  Is it change, or is it terminal dis-interestry?  I don't think so. So why the drift? The truth is we just get too comfortable, and no longer put forth  the effort  that we did in the beginning. To repair the damage, an active program of preventative maintenance is required.

Think about your relationship, and how you and your lover interacted when the relationship was new—you will likely find that you had a lot more intimacy in the early days of your relationship. This would include more phone calls, texting, touching, kissing and other endearments . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now.  It all used to come so easy with the excitement of having a new partner - do we have to let that excitement die? Some relationships were never meant to last, but of those that are, it is important that we actively pursue success.  Stress is the usual place to put the blame, but that is not always applicable.  All these issues were probably the same ones we've  dealt with in the past that made us closer in the first place.

If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. Both partners get into their comfort zone, and let things go,and before you know it their at that point where they never thought they'd be. Men might get in the habit of checking out other women and not paying attention to the one they are with.  Now, I am not putting any blame here - women can be guilty of this also. The issue is that we start to neglect each other in small ways that end up being very significant in the long run. We make each other feel less attractive, less desireable and less needed. Most times were even afraid to say something for fear of upsetting the other person even though their actions have made us angry. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - to build a lifelong romance takes work, commitment, understanding and tolerance of each others viewpoints. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men have to stop staring at other women – it may be conditioned by advertising, but it is just demeaning to your partner. And women need to think about comments that they may make about other guys.
4)  Dishonesty is the root of all relationship dissension – make a habit of telling the truth, even if it might lead to embarrassing explanations.
5) No matter how busy you are, and other than sleeping at night, make sure you set aside at least an hour a day to be alone together
6) Talk to each other and make sure you bring up issues and work them through before they become an insurmountable obstacle.
7) Always start your day off with a kiss, and a hug, and a good morning- it starts your day off on a positive note, and it feels real good too.
8) Be spontaneous- flirt with each other-  a little kissing on a stairwell before work can be rather sexy, and keep your partner thinking about you throughout the day
9) Make sure that you smile and take life as the fun adventure that it is meant to be. You may think that frowning and being serious all the time is a way to get ahead in life, but in actual fact it works against you in your personal life, your relationships and in your professional business life as well.
10)  Make a point of never going to bed angry- whatever is bothering you talk it out, its not worth losing sleep over, and it starts your next day on a negative note. Make some time to snuggle when you get into bed....create a good night ritual. Some couples just get into their own sides of the bed, and that's it. I don't know about you, but  that is not my idea of a Good Night. Take a few moments to caress, and make going to sleep a wonderful thing knowing that you will be waking up beside your Prince or Princess in the morning.

Relationships are hard work but worth the effort. Keep at it so that your relationship becomes more play than work. When it becomes second nature to you, you have truly achieved the epiphany of satisfaction.
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What Lesbians Are Looking For

 For a great deal of lesbians, finding the love of your life can be as easy as going online to a lesbian dating website (or even some more general purpose online dating sites) and creating an true profile that is interesting to others, and then just sit back and wait for them to come to you. It is actually that easy but you should also continue taking your own pro-active steps to meet someone. Look at other people's profiles and reach out to them via chat or email on the site. You will likely find some really interested women to connect with. On top of that, you may find some ideas that you might want to capitalize on and add to your profile. After all, if something in someone else's profile catches your eye, then something similarly phrased in your profile will likely catch someone else's eye as well. A big majority of lesbians are often exposed to different types of groups of people as they go about social, work or other events of importance in their lives. If you are someplace where you already have things in common with many of the people present these could be good places to meet someone new and get a relationship started.

 A common mistake that a lot of lesbians make when having their first relationship is rushing into things too quickly. Before you end up waking up next to someone you hardly know. Go out together for a while, get to know each other to find out if you have anything in common. You need to have some common interests, values and plans for the future that will compliment each other. Share things with each other, if you get a new job, if a family member has a baby, a party is planned, a kudos you might have gotten, be sure to involve your partner, they are not only your lover, they are  your best friend.

If you are at a family gathering or with friends and someone starts telling gay and lesbian jokes that are in bad taste and insulting to you and your partner, and you see your partner is disgusted by it, just get up and leave, tell them you came to enjoy yourselves not to listen to a lot of trash about how other people live their lives|One awkward situation would be to find yourselves at a social or family gathering and hear people dissing the gay and lesbian community at large. This will require you to make a stand and let people know that you will not tolerate statements of that nature. Insult them if you have to. Hopefully your family and friends understand your sexuality so you can then tell them that you are not at all amused at what was said, and that if they think your way of life is something to be made fun of and make jokes about then please don't expect you and your partner to attend any more get togethers. After all, who needs to go anywhere and be made to feel bad.

When it comes to your partner, make sure that you involve have them meet your family and friends as much as possible. This is an important step to establishing and keeping a relationship.

From a purely sexual perspective, being a lesbian, you already understand just how sexual a lesbian can be. Since both are female, lesbians can typically keep each other sexually satisfied for hours at a time. Men seldom last longer than 30 minutes, so that pretty much means that lesbians are God's chosen people when it comes to sexual satisfaction. When one woman is making love to another woman each just naturally knows which enjoyment buttons to press for each other.  Gay men have a similar advantage, but too bad about the aids specter.  Sex is the one area where a lesbian or gay relationship just runs circles around the hetero types.

The lesbian life is the best that there is, so love your life and live it to the max. Live, love and share your life with others, and try to surround yourselves with loving and caring family and friends who accept you for what you are and will be there for you at any time should you need them.

 Just remember people are always a little uneasy about things they really don't know a lot about so try to stick with those who have a positive attitude.  Since you are lesbians, then it would be best if many of your friends are from the lesbian community. Open minded heterosexual friends are tough to find, so if you have a few, cherish them and nurture them.

Just remember that after God created Adam and Eve, she realized her mistake and gave Eve a lesbian friend to keep her happy.  Adam was such a domineering sexual schmuck after all.


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